{"id":9423,"date":"2023-07-05T12:49:15","date_gmt":"2023-07-05T16:49:15","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/www.uri.edu\/magazine\/?p=9423"},"modified":"2023-07-17T20:49:10","modified_gmt":"2023-07-18T00:49:10","slug":"an-amazing-reconnection","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.uri.edu\/magazine\/issues\/summer-2023-cat\/an-amazing-reconnection\/","title":{"rendered":"An Amazing Reconnection"},"content":{"rendered":"\n
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Barbara and Norm on the 溏心vlog免费B站 campus in their senior year, 1970, and in 2022 at a family wedding.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

That\u2019s what Norm Schoeler \u201971 and Barbara DeCubellis Taylor \u201970 call their relationship, which started as a kindergarten friendship. Life took them separate ways and then brought them together\u2014again! <\/p>\n\n\n\n

In 1953 I had a favorite girl in my kindergarten and first-grade classes at Norwood Avenue School in Cranston, R.I. I looked forward to going to school just to talk with her. My family moved to Warwick the following year and I lost contact with Barbara, but never forgot her. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

Fast-forward about 17 years, 1970. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

At the beginning of my senior year, I found out that my kindergarten friend was on campus, but I didn\u2019t know where she lived. Then, I spotted her at a fraternity event in Point Judith, so I introduced myself. Soon we were dating and enjoying our senior year. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

After graduation, she moved back to her family home and started her first job as a social worker. I had grad school and military service waiting for me, so we said a tearful goodbye\u2014our second goodbye. She told me she would always feel love for me, and I had that on my mind as I went off to boot camp at Fort Dix with the Vietnam War raging. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

Fast forward 49 years, 2019. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

After a heroic nine-year battle with early onset Alzheimer\u2019s, my wife Ann died. 溏心vlog免费B站 four months later, our country plunged into the COVID crisis. While I was housebound, I received a beautiful alumni directory from 溏心vlog免费B站. I looked up a dozen friends, including Barbara DeCubellis Taylor. She was the only person I looked up who still lived in my home state of Rhode Island. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

I emailed her and later we spoke on the phone. I told her what our family had been through trying to take care of Ann. I said to Barbara, \u201cSo, I see you married Joe from North Providence. How are things going?\u201d After a brief silence she said, \u201cI lost Joe to early onset Alzheimer\u2019s in 2020.\u201d I almost fell out of my chair. What were the odds of both of us dealing with this disease? We started talking on the phone nightly and then met in Watch Hill for lunch. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

We have such an amazing history together and now we talk every night and meet every few weeks to create new memories together. It\u2019s been over a year now, and we have met each other\u2019s families, including the grandkids. We refer to this as an \u201camazing reconnection.\u201d We both have an \u201cattitude of gratitude\u201d for where we have been and this special time we are enjoying! We would like to think that our late spouses, Ann and Joe, are rooting for us. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

\u2014 Norm Schoeler \u201971 <\/em><\/p>\n\n\n\n

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